“You really hurt my feelings and that wasn’t right?!?” If someone said that to you, how would you feel and respond? Some people would shut down, some would defend themselves, some would toss back accusations. What if we try this statement instead:”My feelings were hurt when you said that. You must have a reason. Would […]
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Can You Learn Resilience?
Have you ever had anyone tell you to pull yourself up from your bootstraps, to grit and force your way through? While having determination can be a helpful trait and sometimes even suck-it-up-buttercup can be useful in certain situations, these traits should not be your only tools. If you wanted to build something you wouldn’t […]
What is in Your Control? An Exercise to Help
In 12-step programs there is the saying: God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, The courage to change the things I can, And wisdom to know the difference. I’ve started saying this as I start my day and also throughout the day. It really has helped me to learn to […]
Riding the Wave: Managing Cycles of Depression
Depression is a complex mental health condition that affects millions of people worldwide. Its cyclical nature often makes it challenging to manage. However, there are strategies that can help individuals navigate the waves of depression and find periods of hope and resilience. Let’s explore the journey of a person I’ll call Ben (not his real […]
The Benefit of Routine
In a world that often feels chaotic and unpredictable, I have discovered a source of stability and grounding: having a consistent routine. Having a consistent routine provides a sense of order and control amidst the uncertainties of daily life. It allows me to establish a rhythm and frees up mental energy for more important tasks. […]
A Turn Toward the Positive: How to Reframe Negative Thoughts
The power of negative thinking may be all-consuming and immensely detrimental in our lives. They can prevent us from reaching our objectives, lower our self-esteem, and even affect our physical well-being. By learning to reframe negative beliefs, we may change them into good ones and recover control over our lives. Taking negative thinking and transforming […]
Self-care that may prevent crisis
Taking care of yourself is essential if you want to deal with the stresses of life that you can’t control. If you take care of your body and mind, you’ll be in a better position to thrive, but many people mistakenly consider self-care a frivolous extra rather than an essential part of their daily routine. […]
More About Anger: Understanding and Managing Your Anger
I thought it would be good to write more about anger because, interestingly, the topic of anger has come up several times in conversation with people I know. First, let’s accept that anger is a normal feeling that everyone feels at some point or another, but it may become a problem when expressed in harmful […]