In 12-step programs there is the saying: God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, The courage to change the things I can, And wisdom to know the difference. I’ve started saying this as I start my day and also throughout the day. It really has helped me to learn to […]
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Navigating the Challenges of Living in Group Housing
Living in a group housing environment can be a rewarding experience, filled with opportunities for personal growth and forming lifelong friendships. However, it also presents unique challenges that require adaptability, patience, and effective communication. As someone who has experienced the ups and downs of group living firsthand, I have learned valuable lessons that have helped […]
Engulfing Parents: Learn to trust yourself
Obviously, our parents play a crucial role in shaping our lives. However, there are instances when parents become overprotective, controlling, and emotionally smothering, leading to a phenomenon known as engulfing parents. Being raised by engulfing parents can stifle individuality, hinder personal growth, and create emotional dependencies. But take heart, healing from this experience is possible, […]
The Healing Power of Forgiveness
As I sit down to share my thoughts on forgiveness, the first thing that comes to mind is that nobody is perfect. I would venture to guess that in some way we have all transgressed and hurt someone. I think that gives space for compassion for oneself and for others. Sometimes words or actions are […]
The News Overload: How I Find Balance in a World of Information
About a year ago I started noticing increasing anxiety. It was obvious to me that I was scrolling news sources way too much. But, I felt compelled to pick up my phone and look again. I have come to realize the significant impact that listening to too much news can have on my mental well-being. […]
Self-Care Priorities: Identifying Your Needs and Wants
We must practice self-care to maintain mental, emotional, and physical health. However, figuring out where to begin when taking care of ourselves can be challenging. It was for me! Finding your needs and desires is the first step toward practicing effective self-care. Understanding the difference between needs and wants is crucial to prioritizing self-care effectively. […]
Self-care that may prevent crisis
Taking care of yourself is essential if you want to deal with the stresses of life that you can’t control. If you take care of your body and mind, you’ll be in a better position to thrive, but many people mistakenly consider self-care a frivolous extra rather than an essential part of their daily routine. […]
A Little About Boundaries
We establish our limits, or boundaries, to safeguard our bodies and our emotional and mental well-being. These are the parameters we define for how we want to be treated by others and how we will react if those parameters are not honored by the other party. There are three types of boundaries: physical, emotional, and […]
Anger, the Cycle of Anger and What You Can Do
Anger is a feeling that can be hard to control, but it can be managed. Anger is a normal response to stress, frustration and disappointment. However, when your anger becomes uncontrolled and interferes with your relationships or work life, it’s time to seek help. Anger is a feeling, not an action. It’s important to understand […]
Emotional and Physical safety and the Vibe of Trillium
When I first started coming to Trillium in 2008, it is safe to say that I was very fearful of most things in the outside world (outside of my home). I only came to the Center for an hour at a time and I only sat in the front area which was close to the […]