Recently I had a conversation with a friend/colleague about feeling safe. We did a little experiment: I asked him, “Do you feel safe right now?”. At first he answered, “Yes, of course!”, but after a few moments he noticed that he had thoughts that bubbled up that definitely countered his original answer. Thoughts like, “What […]
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What is in Your Control? An Exercise to Help
In 12-step programs there is the saying: God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, The courage to change the things I can, And wisdom to know the difference. I’ve started saying this as I start my day and also throughout the day. It really has helped me to learn to […]
Do You Judge Yourself for Your Emotions?
Emotions…good or bad. Do you try to convince yourself that you shouldn’t be feeling the way you do, or you should just suck it up? Some of us have been taught it’s not ok to feel certain feelings. You know, it’s not possible to be constantly positive. There’s nothing wrong with positivity, but if we […]
Naming Your Emotions Helps Tame Your Emotions
Do you know how you feel? Do you know what it is you feel? In this blog let’s look at the benefits of learning to name your emotions. Oftentimes, we can be reactive, responding on impulse when we have a feeling. If we don’t know what it is or where it comes from we behave […]
Is it Possible to Choose our Mindset?
I want to tell you about someone I know. This man is always calmly positive and never says an unkind word about anyone. When he talks about things going on in his life he doesn’t share it in a complaining way. He seems to ride the waves of life and accepts the ups and downs. […]
Engulfing Parents: Learn to trust yourself
Obviously, our parents play a crucial role in shaping our lives. However, there are instances when parents become overprotective, controlling, and emotionally smothering, leading to a phenomenon known as engulfing parents. Being raised by engulfing parents can stifle individuality, hinder personal growth, and create emotional dependencies. But take heart, healing from this experience is possible, […]
More About Anger: Understanding and Managing Your Anger
I thought it would be good to write more about anger because, interestingly, the topic of anger has come up several times in conversation with people I know. First, let’s accept that anger is a normal feeling that everyone feels at some point or another, but it may become a problem when expressed in harmful […]